This is a compilation of the “best proposals ever” as of 2013 from Huffington post. I think love is sweet. I think being in love is sweeter.
I haven’t been in love with someone for about 5 years now, I think. The last person I loved was a classmate in college who broke my heart into even tinier pieces. Anyway, enough about my shitty life story. I’m here to talk about what I think about posts on relationship expectations.
I actually get annoyed when someone makes a post with a caption/comment of “I wish I had a boyfriend/girlfriend like this!” Why? Not that I’m jealous that others are in a relationship while I am not.
I get annoyed because people nowadays put too much pressure on relationships. There is too much pressure from one person to the other to do something extraordinary. Is love not enough? Isn’t that the most important thing? That both people mutually love one another and everything else just follows.
Here’s why these expectations are dangerous:
When Partner A posts or comments on a post “I wish I had this kind of relationship” and Partner B responds by doing so, there is suddenly a new expectation. Partner A would probably say “I wish you’d do something more extravagant!” Yet Partner A posts on social media about what Partner B did saying how happy he/she is. There is happiness for sure but it is very little. Then Partner B would do something extravagant for Partner A as requested. Partner B goes to certain lengths for the expected spectacle to wow Partner A.
And suddenly, there is now competition between Partners A & B and their friends who are in relationships too. There is just an endless array of being better and wanting more. Is love not enough? Is it more important to impress others about how “perfect” your relationship is?
Stop wanting too much. Stop asking for more than what’s needed. You might be missing on something far greater. A true love that does not have any pressure. A love that is just pure love.